James Daman | @JDaman04
I read a Malcom Gladwell book recently that said it takes roughly 10,000 hours of practice to master a field, that's about 10 years for most people. Next year my wife and I will be celebrating our 10 year wedding anniversary.
So, I had a question for my wife. Here's the very real text conversation between her and I:
Me: Malcom Gladwell says in his recent book that it takes 10,000 hours to master something, that's roughly 10 years, since we've almost been married 10 years, does that mean that I'm close to mastering women?
My wife: Bahahahaha (w/ lots of emoticons)
My wife's answer was my first clue that I may not have mastered women. Also, my wife delivers babies for a living so asking her a question like this while she is at work was another clue that I haven't mastered women yet.
My final clue came when I was thinking about the questions my wife asks me. She often asks me "What's the weather going to be like today?", "What time does the bank close?", and the dreaded question -- "Does this dress make me look fat?"
In the past I used to tell her to ask Siri for the weather or Google the bank hours. Then, I realized something when I asked Siri this question: "Siri, does this dress make me look fat?"
(This was for educational purposes only. I was not, in fact, wearing a dress at them time.)
Siri replied, "I'll defer to the iPhone camera."
Siri won't even touch that question.
Has Siri mastered women? I don't know, but that's a pretty good answer, which makes Siri a tough competitor for guys.
However, I take comfort in knowing that according to Proverbs 3:5-7, I don't have to lean on my own understanding -- and I don't have to compete with Siri. I don't think I'll ever master women, but I'll sure enjoy trying. I'm still learning every day, and even though I may have a long way to go, my wife still loves me anyway.
James Daman is the pastor of recovery and discipleship at Focus314, which is a church in one of the fastest growing neighborhoods in the United States. He is the Celebrate Recovery State Representative Team Leader for the state of Arizona and he has interviewed some of the world's most influential people, including Archbishop Desmond Tutu, General Tommy Franks and many others. You can contact James on Twitter at @jdaman04.