By Aaron Jeffries / FB: ajeffries1
One evening while driving with my family, I heard my boys discussing the spelling of the word “stop.” The conversation went like this:
Hayden (3 yr. old): “S-T-O-P Stop!”
Owen (2 yr. old): “NO, not that way! O-p-o-p-o-p top”
This went on forever, and eventually we made it home. The boys went to their room to play when suddenly, my oldest told the youngest that he couldn’t play with him because he spelled the word wrong and didn’t want anything to do with him. Hurt by this, my youngest decided he would never spell “stop” again! In fact, he no longer believed in spelling at all.
How often do we as older believers cause the younger ones to stumble like this?
I recently heard a quote -- “Some Christians do a good job at creating atheists.”
It sounds dramatic doesn’t it? To think Christians are literally creating atheists -- that’s just crazy! But in reality, this is happening; we are pushing people away who need Jesus more than ever. Brothers and Sisters, these things ought not to be. We should be striving to create new believers and to build other believers up in spirit and in truth.
Scripture actually demands we live in unity with our brothers and sisters in Christ; Specifically in Titus chapter 2, verses 6-8: Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us.
Let us not forget that we too, were once young believers in need of someone to teach us the way of Christ. Rather than separating fellowship with someone who doesn’t believe something to be the same way, we should be living our lives as an example to the younger ones. Children will be children and argue, but the very next minute they will be best of friends. But as for adults, especially those who just came out the world and into salvation, they should be handled with care.
Some Christians are hurting so much that they don’t even know they’re hurting. In fact, they’ve gotten used to the pain, and live a life in darkness rather than joy. So that last thing we as older believers should be doing is pushing others away to be in despair
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:29-32)
If you or someone you know, is struggling as a new Christian to make connection with other believers, please know that God is a friend who will stick closer than a brother. And I know each and every member of the Back Row team will be here to be a friend to the brokenhearted.
Aaron Jeffries lives in the wild and wonderful state of West Virginia. Married to His beautiful wife Kristen Jeffries, and has been blessed with two amazing little boys. Join Him as He writes about life and our amazing Heavenly Father." He can be reached by email at email@example.com and on Facebook.