Kevin Welborn | @theKevinWelborn
Parenting is rewarding and frustrating. Your kids can raise your blood pressure like no other. But, if someone mistreats your kids in the slightest manner, you will exact swift revenge with the heat of ten thousand suns. Some punk kid innocently had his arm on my oldest daughter’s shoulder last night at AWANA. He is currently under surveillance. In his kindergarten classroom. Learn the verses and keep your hands to yourself, chump!
Kids are strange creatures, but I think that is only because they are human. The odd behavior is his or her humanity, not the kiddy-ness. I called for my daughters four times to get their shoes on two hours ago. They acted like they never heard me. I once opened a candy wrapper fifty yards away and they both came running. It never fails.
Perhaps the greatest challenge in communication between parent and child is that you do not think alike or understand (or remember) what it is like to be the other party. I know I was a regular kid at 5 years old, but 5-year-old Kevin thought he really had it together and the insistence from my parents to do certain things was a hindrance to my agenda for that day.
When I need my almost-3-year-old to take a nap, it isn’t so I can watch My Little Pony without her. As much as I love Rainbow Dash, the real reason she needs a nap is that she is still a toddler who needs rest. It is for her own benefit. She will feel better and be healthier for having a regular nap.
When it comes to naptime, she really does have a choice. Go take a nap, or be disciplined and then go take a nap. The nap is inevitable. Option A is better for everyone involved and she has learned this.
As much as we like to think that we are mature and disciplined adults, God has to treat us as unruly toddlers. We have a proclivity to do things that are not healthy for us spiritually and He must reign us in.
We will sing “have thine own way, Lord” and speak often of the Lord’s will. Yet we fight Him tooth and nail to do things our own way in our own time. Do not forget that He is the Lord, and once you claimed Him as such you abandoned control over your own life.
Samuel had to tell King Saul in 1 Samuel 15 that the king had obeyed his followers rather than God. Saul had refused to destroy things God had told him to and allowed his people to enjoy the spoils of war instead.
In response to Saul’s disobedience, Samuel tells him that “obedience is better than sacrifice”. In simpler terms, it would have been simpler and more beneficial for Saul to just do as God commanded, initially. Instead, he wanted to do things his own way, even though it was detrimental to him and his cohorts.
I am hardly a mean father, but I know what is best for my kids much better than they do. It is the same with God and us. He knows what is best and has our (long term) best interest in mind. To refuse Him is silliness. What needs to happen will happen. His will and my youngest daughter’s nap are the same. Inevitable.
Kevin Welborn is the pastor at Highland Baptist Church in Clovis, NM. He is married and has two daughters. He loves his native Texas, sports, and exploring creation. The most famous person he has ever met is someone you have never heard of. You can contact Kevin on Twitter at @theKevinWelborn.