I’m a father now.
Almost 10 months ago, my beautiful wife gave birth to the cutest baby I’ve ever seen - my son, Elijah.
My wife is the breadwinner in the family. She has the high-paying job and I work part-time and volunteer part-time, but most of my stuff can be done from home, so I’m the stay-at-home dad.
I still haven’t gotten the hang of it yet.
I’m now able to make it through the day without freaking out and the baby gets changed and fed and entertained. But as for cleaning the house or doing dishes or stuff like that with the baby in the house, well, that’s hit or miss.
But I also have trouble when he cries.
Specifically when he cries and I can’t figure out what he wants. I try feeding him, burping him, changing him, holding him, rocking him, putting him in his swing, giving him his binkie, taking his temperature, on and on and on, eliminating each item on the possible list of #BabyProbz and he’s still just crying his little heart out, unhappy.
And after a while, it frustrates me, especially if he’s cried hard enough that tears actually form in the corners of his eyes or his little voice starts to get shaky, and it’s just breaking my heart.
“What do you want?!” I beg the kid. “Why won’t you let me help you?!”
Of course, I’ve read the books that say when you’ve eliminated all the options, sometimes the answer is that the baby has non-specific angst, or is having a mental reset from a busy day, or he may be feeding off of my frustration and it’s making him more upset – whatever the case there is, he’ll just have to cry it out while I do the best I can to comfort him.
We get that way too, still, as adults.
Every now and then, when things are going wrong and we’re unhappy, and we have no clue what to do about it, all we can do is be upset.
When we’ve let our lives fall apart or if someone hurts us deeply, and we just come to this realization that we’re unhappy and don’t know where to go from here.
We’re miserable and God, our Father, is just watching, hurting inside, begging you to turn to Him.
“What do you want? Why won’t you let me help you?”
It’s not God’s will that any of his children be in pain, but pain is a reality and one we can’t avoid. What IS God’s will, however, is to use whatever pain you do go through both to grow you and to help others. Pain itself might not always have a purpose, but God can GIVE purpose to everything in our lives.
I’m not saying you can’t mope for a while. It’s only natural, especially after a big, life-altering event. But we can’t stay there. We have to find the strength to walk through the pain. And that strength comes from Christ alone.
The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. -Psalm 34:18